Mizjjd...u have been such a big help to me. Even though i don't know u personally i really feel like u r a friend. Thanks for the list. I will study it. Im working on my 180s..i guess i need to start w not reacting to H as the first one. Trying to find myself. Funny...as a teen ager n college student (in Ohio)i was so much fun. Everyone used to tell me i was so much fun to hang out with. Now i can't figure out how i turned into a boring mom with no life outside work n kids. Now that weather is nice going to try n walk everyday to clear my head...that's a start, right?? Also..trying to rejoin a bunco group w some women in my neighborhood. focusing on me n my kids n to fix my financial situation. Going to have much less contact w H. I do believe he only lies to me anyway n its hard to listen to anymore. He really just needs a job.
Yay TnD!!
So nice to hear some good news from you.
Walking is a great start. I was going on some EPIC walks after bomb drop and am so glad the weather's getting better so I can start again.
I've heard Bunco is great fun - good for you!! (Remember tho, keep discussions about H to a minimum. They'll really only serve to reinforce your sitch, not help you progress through.)
I hear you on the "I used to be..." (I know I'm not the same as 20 years ago, and I know too I'm not thrilled with who I became. And not all that can be blamed on my H.)
So! Regroup! Take stock! Make goals!
Focus on the Terrific and Dynamic YOU!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
