Help & Advice Needed Please (Thread 3)

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I still don't initiate contact with W but she doesn't with me either so not sure this method is really working.

If you feel like it's not working you can always try reaching out to her yourself and see if things get better or worse. I've been "dim" with W for many months now and W seems to cycle, sometimes she'll text/ email a few times a day and other times (like last week and this week) not at all.

I see my W for maybe 2 minutes once a week when we drop off our son etc. it seems she doesn't miss her old life at all.

She's not going to do anything obvious to show that she misses her old life, so you'll have to watch for tiny things. Maybe she starts making more eye contact, maybe instead of leaving after 2 minutes she lingers just a little longer. Remember not to look for big jumps, it's all about the baby steps!

I'm still very angry with the sitch but a lot of this boils down to the fact that I don't see my son everyday and miss him dreadfully.

Very sorry to hear that, I'm sure you're making the best out of the time you do get with him and for now that's all you can do.

My 180s have been going well as has my GAL. I am a different man to the man my W left - i am financially responsible, i have worked on my temper and i am listening to people very carefully. I'm hoping with time and consistency she can realise this...

Excellent, congrats! Yes, just give her time, hopefully she'll figure it out.

She tells me she is "in love" with OM - don't really know what to make of that - of course it makes me very sad though and leaves me with the feeling that reconciliation is impossible. Time will tell...

It's only going on 3 months now, so she is likely still in the "puppy love" endorphin-release stage. Just keep giving her time, maybe it'll burn out.

Thank you AS I always really appreciate your advice...

Strange but my W phoned me today - only about our Son but something she could of easily text me... Not sure if this is a baby step or not but its certainly different...

I hope her feelings for OM burn out but there's obviously just no way of knowing. I also know that she will realise it would be very difficult for our son to accept that she has a BF...

When she phoned she seemed very curious as to where I was going to be Friday night as I told her I couldn't have our son any earlier than planned on Saturday morning... I tried to remain pleasant but a little mysterious. In return she told me her plans for this evening "I'm going to do this with so and so tonight" just a female friend, but it is the first time since BD that she has told me what she's going to be up to etc.

I will always have a glimmer of hope, but I just wish I could see something concrete - I realise that's not how it works...

Also, she has changed her email address back to her maiden name. I find that a little sad...