The latest skirmish we had was over money. I've said before that my wife is hyper sensitive about money. It doesn't really matter why. She just is.
I spent money on DB coaching without consulting her. I told her about the charge before it appeared. I told her what it was for... coaching. She felt it was a waste. I could get counseling at a much lower out of pocket cost. I could also gain what I was looking for through books.
Well, I was going through credit card records and found a $550 charge at a plastic surgeon's business. She had told me she was going there for a facial and that it was going to be $50. I asked her if she knew about the charge. She did. I asked her what it was for. She declined to tell me. I asked her a couple of times again to tell me what it was for. She then told me she was beginning to get angry. She mentioned me not talking to her about spending money and stated that she was just doing the same. I told her OK, and said goodbye. I later apologized for not consulting with her first (I must admit that my not consulting her was a break of one of my 180's), and that I would cancel my purchase. I received a text reply of, "OK. Thx".
It seems that she is now retaliating for things that she deems are an offense to her. She also has started to resort to anger to get her way. "He who is most angry wins" is something to be avoided, I was told by my coach.
I won't play that game with her. Everyone loses.
Maybe she is having a down period. I know that this is another opportunity for me to choose how I am going to be. I must remind myself that my glass is 75% full.
