DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

Well, Sandi, some of the things that you said about my W just using me seem to have been born out by a discussion tonight. I made plans for Thurs. and Fri. evening, and W was ticked that I hadn't told her sooner. I took your advice to heart and texted her to ask if she could pick up kids from school and daycare and bring D to hockey (first time she's had to do that in....ever probably), but asked me to drop them off in the morning even though it's "'her" day (changes week by week depending on "her" schedule). Tonight she comes home and tells me she is going out tomorrow night. I was pretty surprised because S10 goes to b-ball on Wed. and that's a night I like to go running. She said, you can drop off S and then leave the twins with D9 for 45 minutes while you go running. Unbelievable. It wasn't enough that I worked my tail off to let her be able to go for an overnight visit, she couldn't just let me keep this one night free. I really am a doormat. We're going to start setting some boundaries. She doesn't even really have it that hard when I go out, because I take care of everything before I leave. She goes right from work and leaves everything to me. Grr...