in_it, Congrats from me too. I think your h is just reacting (and add like a spoiled jerk). You yourself said he does this (jugular). So, give him some space to let it sink in. I hope he realizes what a GIFT a child is and your sitch changes for the best.

((HUGS))

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)