How about ignoring the petty things, letting her work through her own depressive thoughts and being the fun guy elsewhere? What can you suggest in terms of where you can let her see that you are the fun great guy, but by not responding to picky ways, you are not further validating the actions?
Hmm, interesting I was actually thinking earlier that I need to be the one that she needs rather than coming across as the one that needs her. This is not what you are saying, but if i become the rock in our family, happy, funny and relaxed - i think this approach could work because she does need somebody to help her through this, to be there when she needs them to be, and take over with the kids etc when she is not feeling happy. At the moment if I am acting a little down or needy she will not be pulled towards me at all.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
