Texting back after...are you mad does not fix anything. If he's mad that reinforces it. If he's not made that is an annoying text and likely will make him mad. It is needy, clingy, shows lack of self confidence. I know you think there's a point to it and that it's useful, but how well has that belief served you so far?
Also, looking to us for a pass/fail on a minor interaction is sometimes ok to make sure you're headed in the right direction...but also sometimes seems excessive, needy, clingy, lacking self-confidence, toward us. Take the information you learned in the DB book, and the ideas that have been suggested, and learn to walk on your own more. It takes practice, but make it a goal....
I think sticking it to him in a serious or a light hearted way is unprofessional and irritating. If he obviously doesn't remember something you taught him, offer to teach him again, without rubbing his nose in it? If he were your boss would sticking it at him be viewed positively? If he were your underling would sticking it at him be viewed positively? If you dig a little for why you felt it was necessary to stick it to him at all, perhaps you'll find - a need to be right....- a defensive attitude....- a snarky, baiting approach to interactions....- something other than professional courtesy and/or loving interaction?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
