asking him if he was mad, was directed at the fact that he was being silly, as I was complimenting him. Had I left it alone at that point... he would feel justified in pointing out that I need to be reminded 1000 times. I think I did way better than I normally would have, but a long way to go yet. Normally, I would have called back to see if he was mad and offered apologies for who knows what.
since then, he has called 2 times, and is quite nice.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)