Tx Tallula... I know he was baiting me.... and I just didn't know how to get out of it. Which is why I asked if he was mad, putting it back onto him and then suggesting he shouldn't be as it was meant as a compliment. He ended up calling shortly after and was quite nice...again. Work convo. No mention of the above other than did I want to buy X?
Pass/fail? ... LOL
Ok, I was once just like you. Telling my H what he should or shouldn't feel. You H has every right to get mad at you for absolutely nothing if he so chooses. If my H misunderstands me (which happends DAILY), gets mad and sulks or ignores me...oh well. Now if he asks me later, which is he does now since I just let him be mad, I will say..."Um, I was joking." He'll go. "OMG, I totally read that text wrong. I'm a jerk."
Pass/fail: I'm just going to say, that is what you need to change. You need for him to always understand your intent. He sees you through anger and resentment filled eyes. The more you react to it, the more he will still feel the same. Once I just let H be mad, and only "make things clear" when he would approach me about it, did he start to see that it was him who was reading the wrong things into my words. I would never have gotten him to see that.
Does this make sense to you?
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
