we own a biz - pt 5

[Tallula]

not sure I handled this the best way... this is a typical disagreement, that I get involved in. Please show me how to DB through this text convo.

H: Did you check list today?

M: alls good

H: Even X & Y or do you care

M: I wasn`t looking for them. Did u see any?

H: How would I (H just got a computer, I have been teaching him)

M: cuz I taught u

I would have said: I know we only went over it once the other day, would you like me to show you again?

H: (5 mins later) Done it once....does same apply to you?

M: U ususally remember

I would have just not responded. He was baiting you to fight. If I did, I would have said: Well, you usually remember things after one time. Would you like me to show you again?

M: (11 mins later) Are you mad at me now?

H: (25 mins later) No!

M: I hope not. Because I was complimenting...how I need to be told often, but you typically remember on first lesson. and it doesn`t translate very well in text.

I would have done NONE OF THIS!!!! Just sit on your hands when you want him to validate you or when you feel like asking if he is mad. DON"T DO IT!!!

I know him... He was annoyed when he suggests "do I remember things after being told only once" (I need multiple instructions) and based on the time it took him to answer, as the messages were instant....he was mad. Same ol h! I was trying not to get pulled into an arguement.... did I db?

Mindreading, analyzing waaaaay too much with the time between texts. My H does that to me all the time now. "It took you 10 minutes between texts, are you mad?" No, I was in fact, wiping your 2 year old's butt and then we sang twinkle twinkle...

We don't really know what is in our spouses minds, what they are doing. We just think we do.

You did well up to: I wasn't looking for them. Did you see any? Even the I taught you was ok.