Just a quick thought. I have not been asking wife about her day, if she is okay etc because as I understood this was not a good idea as part of DR. However I think I have the wrong end of the stick. Is it that I should not ask how she is feeling, what her thoughts are etc?

I think by asking my wife how her day was etc I would actually be doing 180, because before in my M I probably never gave time for this kind of chat. Should I give it a go and if i get a frosty response back off?

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.