RS - Debt free is the excuse now? Come on man. A few days ago it was leave time. You either want this to work or you don't. If you do (and I really believe you do) she has to be the #1 priority and to hell with the rest. I think you need to pursue her which is unique on these boards but might fit your sitch.
Look, there are a million excuses of why not to do something, especially something as hard as making changes in ourselves and standing for a broken M. There may only be a few reasons to fight for it. In my opinion, family, love, loyalty, raising my W up, and making changes in myself heavily outweigh the excuses to do more of the same.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
