WAW_SC, I really feel for you. Been there, done that........
It is tough (speaking from experience) but try as much as you can to detach and practice patience......
Just because the process has begun doesn't mean that it has to be finished, and even if it is that doesn't have to be the end of your relationship with your W. There are examples of recon very late in the process and even after D....
Positive step that you have goals and 180s - focus there. There is a lot more you can control in that arena and becoming the best person you can be is you best chance for developing meaningful relationships going forward - hopefully with your W, but even if not, you will be a happier, more attractive individual for anyone else you may meet.
Stay strong!
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
