Ellie, sometimes you crack me up. You are always so positive. I have been looking at new shared plans and it makes sense to get one with her and probably D too, instead of getting nickel and dimed to death with a bunch of bills.
Maybe it is a peace offering although I could think of a more interesting way to make peace....SIGH...
Don't know about the text messaging though... I don't do cute very well.
Quote: Ellie, sometimes you crack me up. You are always so positive.
Just call me Pollyanna
And come on - you can do the text messaging thing, it's not so hard. In fact it's easier than emails because they're so short, you don't really have to say anything much except "hi beautiful" or "howzit". And wouldn't you rather she was getting them from you than from OM? In fact, wouldn't it tick you off later to find out OM won over you because of a few lousy text messages? I'm tellin' you, WASs love that stuff, that's how the OPs sucker 'em in, so steal a page from their playbook
My H spent a summer working in Hawaii once and learned to speak pidgin - so we've all picked up these pidgin phrases - howzit (pronounces hows zeet) means "how are you doing?"
I think my kids still think pau (finished) is a standard English word!
Yesterday was a little rough, but today I had a big lunch with my D and she talked openly with me about anorexia and the disease process - she's able look at it objectively, which is a very good thing. She's eating much better but still not gaining weight - I've read that sometimes when they start eating again, they don't gain at first because their metabolism gets so revved up, and there's so much repair work going on in their bodies. She's been taking about 2000 calories a day, but we will have to push it up higher. She looks better though - not as pale, and her mood is better.
Tonight I get to go on a date with my H We're going to see a documentary called Touching the Void - based on a nonfiction book about the hairiest mountaineering survival story you will ever read - read that book if you want to read about someone who has it worse than you
I think the cell phone thing is a huge issue in alot of relationships. I know it got to be a problem with me & H when he was still living at home because he would go outside in the garage & talk to whoever. His friends had that number but never called the house.
I always had the same problem - he never felt like talking to me on the phone (still doesn't) but whenever I am w/ him it rings constantly & he talks on it alot to everyone else.
Yes, I've been through those days and it's not as bad now. Even early in our marriage, W spent a lot of time on the phone w/her friends, during most of our problems it got much worse.
D called last night and asked if Mom had told me about getting rid of her cell phone. I said yes and I was somewhat surprised. She said Mom had told her she did it because you had "issues" with it. I laughed and said, "I didn't have "issues" with the phone. I have issues with your Mom." D said, "I know." and we dropped it.
It's been awhile since I talked alot about YS. He still thinks he's on top of the world....and he pretty much is, but I do occassionly get a chance to mess with him.
YS and his friends came over last night in a good mood. The gang was house hopping, scrounging for food and one of the guy's Dad gave them work shirts with his company logo on them, the local cable company. I'm not sure why, but the kids took it in stride and all 4 decided that are going to wear them to school tomorrow. "It'll be cool" YS said, even though the shirt is very small on all but one of them.
For whatever reason, they all thought this was incredibly funny and it loosened YS up to tell me more about his day than usual and it got him into trouble...again.
YS: Hey, Dad, listen to this. Me: What? YS: J (a friend) stole a couple of hall passes from the office and we forged our own hall passes to get out of class today. Me: Why? YS: 'Cause man(I get called "Man" when he thinks I'm cool), we decided we wanted to hang out in the athletic building for awhile. I told the teacher I was getting a call from the college. Me: And what did the coaches say about you hanging out over there? YS: Sheesh! Coach X doesn't care. We talked for a long time...and I found out what really happened to that Coach that got fired last year. Me: So, you forged a pass and cut class to BS with the coaches. Didn't it occur to you that you might get caught? YS: Heck no. The hall monitor is cool. He didn't even look at my pass and he wouldn't've (I don't think this is a real word but it's how he talks) said anything to me anyway. No way I'm gonna get caught. Me: And what to you call it when you come home and tell your Dad you did something stupid like that? YS: What? Me: I mean, you cut class. I find out and I'm not supposed to do anything? YS: Oh, come on! You wouldn't have known if I hadn't said anything... Me: Well, live and learn, Huh? I hope it was worth hanging out with me this weekend. 'Cause that's what you are going to be doing. YS: Come On...it was ART! Not like it was a real class or anything. Now how am I supposed to bond with you if you are going to pull cr#p like this? Me: Do you really think I stay up at night worrying about how we are going to bond??? YS: Sure, all parents do. Me: Uh-huh. Don't worry, I have all kinds of yard work we need to do this weekend. It'll be fun. Get up about 8... YS: In the Morning???? That's just not right. Me: Neither is skipping class. Even if it was Art.
About this time I was having fun and W knew it. She stepped in and took YS's side and got him out of being grounded, like I knew she would. But he's still helping clean up the yard....Sometimes stupidity is also a crime, and it's almost always entertaining.
As usual, the PMA is up and down. I found out yesterday the W is going to be gone most of today, tomorrow and Saturday. She's doing some extra work for the school after work and they have a big tournament this week.
She has continually volunteered for this stuff. She gets paid for it, but I've asked her not to do it right now since it means she's gone a couple of nights a week...in addition to other nights when she goes out with her friends shopping or whatever.
It ticked me off yesterday and I'm still mad about it. I don't want to get into an argument so I'm trying to leave her alone. She keeps asking me what's wrong? Have I told you guys that I hate when she does that? As soon as I tell her what's wrong, she gets mad and walks away anyway so it's better if I just keep my mouth shut.
Last night was Ash Wednesday, so I did something I haven't done in a long time. I went to Church. She didn't want to go so I went by myself. Long story, but I grew up going to Catholic School, and went to Mass pretty much everyday as a kid. Maybe I just got burnt out, but I've pretty much avoided Church as an adult except on some holidays but last night was OK. We have a new priest since last time I was there.
I came back home and there were 7 cars/trucks in our driveway, five of which I didn't recognize. YS had some of his friends over playing PlayStation football and eating all our food. OS had shown up with two of his friends as well. Of course none of them had eaten.
I ordered pizza. It was fun and they all hung out for awhile. The dog was going nuts since she's not used to so many people all at once. And she has a thing about guys in particular. She barks and growls at them a lot. Must get that from W.
The kids finished the food and then trickled out. YS went into his room when his cell phone started ringing. It took me a while to figure that out, but I've realized that after 9pm, cell phone calls are free so the girls all start calling then. It explains why he hides in his room at night. During the summer and fall he'd go outside, but it's kind of chilly at night now, so he goes into his room.
That left W and I and I didn't feel like just sitting there pretending that everything was just great. Instead, I cleaned up the mess and went to bed. I don't usually go to bed until much later but, as I said earlier, I'm really trying to avoid an argument.
Well, gotta go. I have to stop by the store and replenish the snack supply in case the horde stops by again tonight. I never know, it goes in spurts. I think they wear out there welcome at one guy's house then take the show on the road. And OS might show up again too. He's getting ready to deploy and I think he's getting more time off now so he's started showing up a little more often. The natives get restless without food.
