I don't know where to begin from. Things are going so fast and seem so definite. I will try to make it brief and to the point. I could go on for pages as I know everyone else here could also.
So Bomb on 1/1/2013 1:00am. She asked to me move out 1/1/2013 8:00am. I told her no after catching her on the phone with her new love interest. If she wanted a "new life" and a "new beginning" she could have it in a new house. She explained that I didn't want to be more then I was in life and was happy being who I am. She needed something more, but never told me till that moment after she decided it was over.
She found a place and moved out around the 10th. Took almost everything. I drew a line at a few things, but let her take what she had before our marriage and anything we had 2 of. Of course she took all the stuff that was new.
After her demanding things, time frame of divorce, still using the phone I pay for to talk to her new BF. Saying mean awful things about me to him. I lost it and I filed for the divorce. Just got tired of being kicked around and made to follow her schedule. Had my first xwife serve her papers for the divorce. I know it wasn't the best idea at the time, but what is done is done. The first wife enjoyed it greatly.
In the court docs I ask for spousal support since she left me my daughter and my elderly father and the responsibility of making the house payments and all the bills, when we use to split them. she makes 3 times what I do and I could not afford to pay everything. That really pissed her off. Called me everything but a man. I also asked for her not to be able to sell or kick us out of the house until the divorce was final. Another item that really pissed her off after the court decided to grant spousal support to me and let me stay in the house as long as I keep the bills current.
We have no children together, but raised each others kids as our own for 10 years+ She has (3) 2 B 18,20 from H#1 and 1 D 13 from H#2. I have 1 D 14 from first marriage.
The reason I bring them up is she left the 1 H the same way. She was cheating on him, came home one day and took the kids and left. Slept around a lot until. 2H, she confided in me she was glad he passed away(had 3 liver transplants), because she married a big strong man and now he wasn't and probably would never be that man again. Slept around a lot again. So now I'm h#3 10years down the road and I'm not what she wants so she moves on again. The guy she was "in love with" in Germany stepped back out of the relationship after him and I talked. She got on some dating sites and is now in love again with a new guy.
She got an attorney 3/24/2013 to get me out of the house. So now I need to look into getting one as well. We don't talk, text, or see each other at all.
My stepdaughter didn't even invite me to her birthday party this year. Her moms BF will be there. I raised her since she was 2. Breaks my heart. I haven't spoken to her in 3 months as well. Just feels like I was replaced in my own life in a matter of minutes.
So the 180 stuff. Yes I get up early now, take care of everything in the house, cook, clean, feed the dogs, do the yard, workout everyday, joined a bowling league, try to get out once a week with friends and work 2 jobs. So does she notice, I doubt it. Does she care? Highly unlikely. She has moved on and upgraded in here eyes already. "I will never be the man she wants to be with again" " Not if I was the last Man on earth".
About a month ago I stopped asking to talk, to try to make things work or seek professional help. I just leave her alone and be the best man, person, son, brother, and father I can be. That is enough for me. I don't really care if it is enough for her anymore.
Me: 42 W: 42 M 6.5 T 10 Bomb 1/1/2013 1:00am waw 1/10/2013 I filed D 1/31/2013
