Recently Separated and Need Help

[separated313]

I printed out the 37 rules and have started rereading DR. I'm hoping that maybe this will help me refocus on what I need to do to help me through this. It's just really tough because I really wish I had my H to rely on through all of this. I've come to depend on him so much for emotional support

[JuneReN]

Agree with Ad. Of course you will feel like this. Somedays I just want him back and others it's "Whack-A-Husband" day ( like whack-a-mole game, but more satisfying)

You do need to focus exclusively on you. Fill your days to the top with new things and GAL and people. It is a coping mechanism and will only benefit you now and in the long run.

the 37 is a great place to start.

[willbwell]

It is the same for me. Such a nightmare that want over. Totally dumbfounded! H sees kids so while I am so glad for that and want best for the kids, I wish I could ask h to leave us one for a while. He's getting best of both worlds right now. As for me, well I'm working on myself! Doing all the positive good things that are talked about. I know happiness. I know what I want. Really too bad for h

[Breakdown]

It's just really tough because I really wish I had my H to rely on through all of this. I've come to depend on him so much for emotional support

I get it....it is tough. The way you were living yesterday is no longer available today. You have to find a new way...and change is hard.

You are not helping yourself by staying on the roller coaster. It's time to rediscover yourself and who you want to be....your H and your M do not define you.

[separated313]

Thank you all so much. I feel better today. Not really looking forward to seeing H tomorrow at the support hearing. Every time I see him, I fall back into his trap. I found more of his clothes too. I think I'm going to drop them off for him. Seeing his stuff is just really hard.

[separated313]

So today is the day. I'm trying very hard to detach and act as if. Today shouldn't be about my M. It should be about making sure my babies are still going to be taken care of. So why am I so nervous?

[separated313]

So the hearing went well. I got enough child support to make sure that I can continue to keep the house and not get evicted. My H wouldn't even look at me. Didn't say a word. I walked in there looking really good (if I do say so myself) and he looked pretty rough. I couldn't help but smile to myself.

[JuneReN]

Nice separated, really nice! Now...GAL list??

[separated313]

I'm working on it. This will be my first weekend without my kids, so I'm figuring out what to do so I'm not lonely all weekend!

[azguy]

Hi. I'm curious where you want to go with your R? Some of your posts sound like you want to repair it. Some sound like you want to move on, and make sure your children are taken care of? If you're like everyone else here, your emotions are telling you to do both, depending on your mood or how things are going. How would you state your goals?