Still treading water #4

[Grizz]

I have been thinking about BD. Months prior to BD, W became depressed and withdrawn (due to a multitude of things). I tried to "fix" things, I became needy and it turned into a viscous cycle between the two of us. She said she wanted me to act "normal".

PON has previously mentioned that he heard the same thing from his W.

My question is how in the he!! Do I act "normal" while also giving her space? Like tonight, she texted me to say she was taking the kids to the mall to eat supper. For me to act normal this meant I would show up at the mall and eat with them. Be happy to see everyone after work and enjoy eating together. But to give her space would mean to just say ok and me pick up something to eat on the way to play softball.

So, thinking about the "normal" comment I texted back, I think I will have time to swing by and eat with you guys prior to playing ball. And that is what I did. Supper was un-eventful. We were friendly, talked and I left to play ball.

My question is, how to act "normal" but still give space? Did I bust the DBing?