I feel like I've tried that and usually just get an "I dunno" type of response. The only thing I've found that she will sometimes do with me is shop. Which kind of makes me feel used.
Not that I mind getting stuff we need, but it's a hobby with her. She'll go shopping with me, but if I suggest something else it's usually a no-go.
Just yesterday, we went to the mall to look for a bedspread and some other stuff and had a chance to talk about this very topic. She told me that she felt like we didn't have anything in common except the kids. I told her that I felt she didn't even give me a chance. I've offered to do a lot of different stuff and she refuses. Even simple things like going to a movie. I'll ask her and she says no. Then a friend calls and she'll go see the same movie she just told me she didn't want to see.
Then she told me that, for her, it's not so much the movie, or what she is doing, it's who she is doing it with and she doesn't want to do anything with me. OK, so now I feel about this big....
I tried to stay upbeat, but the truth is that I'm really getting tired of the cold shoulder routine. I'm really at a loss as to what to do about it. I asked her again, if she doesn't want to do anything with me, why did she come back home? Why doesn't she want to get a divorce? As usual...she said she doesn't know.
