Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks Snodderly. I know you've been there so your advice is worth its weight in gold.

So there was a scheduling conference between attorneys and the judge today. My attorney told me I didn't need to attend, but Joe decided he wanted to be part of the proceedings. According to my attorney, the judge told him his attendance wasn't mandatory, but H insisted and it torked off the judge.

Apparently the judge wants this case done right and wants the parties to take their time and do the property division correctly. H's lawyer wanted to push everything through to get things done in 30 days, but the judge said that wasn't feasible so he said 60 days to get the finances in line. Our next pre-trial court date isn't until August. AUGUST! H is steamed. He called me and practically begged me to work with him to get this thing expedited. Hmmm...he went on and on. He is panicking. I wanted to interject "Gee H, if you would just listen to me and work with ME on what I want, maybe I wouldn't need a lawyer to protect my interest" but I didn't waste my breath. H also went on about how much money we are spending on the lawyers and how we could have paid off all our debts by now. I again wanted to say, "Gee if we would have stayed married, we maybe would have all our debts paid off, idiot".

It kills me how he cannot or will not see that he is the cause of his own demise. He is his own worst enemy. Yeesh.

WH