I completely agree. Right now I think my brain is seeking confirmation that I am still a 'good catch' in case all goes wrong. But I have never been unfaithful to my wife, and still love her more than anything in the world - well I must do if I still want to be M'd to her after all that's been said - so no danger of me going down that road.
Strange thing is since that dream, which was the first dream I had that was not about me and W and divorce, I had a dream last night that me and W were back together. It was not pleasant waking up - but for some strange reason I did not mind so much - it made me optimistic today.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.