AS, actually the arguments were not about blaming him. More like, I was minding my own merry self, and in came h, ready to pounce. But, I will consider what you said, as I do see blame in the way I wrote that. Yes, I realize that "recognizing the controlling/anxiety" issue is not the 180, but recognizing it is a start...I never saw it like that before. Now, I will work on allowing things to let be. Also, I am ALWAYS nice to him, and he seems to be nice back too. Even this morning, he said to me "sorry for missing my call" and gave a reason why he missed it. That's 2 comments/behaviours out of him that I haven't seen since we first started going out.
So... I guess you guys don't want to hear about today's interaction with h? oh well... We had to drive again about 45 mins out of city, I listened to h talk about his friend looking at cottages, work, other people, he then said after we pay his mom, my D, and what the business owes me, he'd like to buy a jeep for me & put it under the company name. I didn't respond much, other than how we would run it under the company.
I came back to my parents, cleaned a vehicle and am now heading to the city to take my daughter to apply for jobs. 180 for me, I don't like to go into the city...but am doing so for my awesome D.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)