They cover it up...I have seen my H's pain, crying at the door when leaving the house, see it in his eyes, hear it in his voice when we talk, anger is pain, anger covers other emotions...it is just the tip of the iceberg...now how long I have to wait for him to really be able to discuss the pain, address it and deal with his own issues is another thing...but I can not control that...finally hit me about three weeks ago how much I can not help him...
It is about me and he needs to deal with him, I can not help him with this...I just need to keep the road back home smooth and paved so when and if he is ready I am here...
But if it takes too long and I have changed and he wants to come home with out dealing with us or H's issues then he might be told to head right back out the door til he has done his own work...
I am not at this point yet...I have seen other get there or be there though...
