Right! This is the irony, often the WAS is still VERY attached to the LBS! It is not at all a healthy attachment though. I think a large part of the "give the WAS time and space" approach is so that the WAS CAN detach, because once they're able to detach from us they can start to see that we're not the root cause of every little problem in their life.
Thanks AS, that puts into perspective as well, for me, why H, with another woman, feels guilt for me. That I am still the cause of him not moving forward because he "needs" to make sure I am okay. Food for thought.
Wow, that is all heavy but I think so bang on.
Road trip? I am in if timing works well. That would be great.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
