I get what you're saying, M1. This is really difficult for me because I'm ready to make those changes, yet over the phone isn't the way to do it.
I'm limited on time off and funds to take trips to see them. I'm still paying for their support, my few expenses here and also working on the debts. It's not easy. My trips only cost a total of $50 so it's not like I'm having a spree down here while they're up there.
Good news tonight is that their internet is working again. Just spoke with S and he's excited to tell me about his new toy. I told him to have his dinner, then call me when he's done. We're hopefully going to skype so he can SHOW me his new toy.
This I think is a good baby step to work on talking with family again and maybe W will eventually want to join in conversation.