How to make it work again?

[scaredsilly]

aw, grace. thank you for your kind words. as for your X, she will have a defining moment in her life, too (she should be so lucky) and will have to look at herself as we all have here.

you are a very worthy and lovable person. i've never met you in the real world but i know it from your postings. so you must really be someone special out there!

you and your X were just not right for each other. you may have been at one time but things change, people grow, some don't, some don't change when they need to.

but, you are so LUCKY to have gone through this. think of all the things you've learned! think of all the work you've done!

i think we all have people who come into our lives and teach us things we need to know. i'm grateful. maybe i wasn't at the time but sometimes all we learn is how to avoid that kind of person or how to stand up for ourselves and get what we need to be happy.

there's no set time for getting through this, i believe. i see some drop the rope right away and some linger and hold on long past the time i would have. however, i see successes for both. so it's strictly up to the individual to work it out. one thing i am certain of, though, is that we DO work it out. we get through it and find out that there is not just ONE person out there for us. there are MILLIONS of them.

((((((NG)))))))