Then she is not detached with her anger and bitterness?
Right! This is the irony, often the WAS is still VERY attached to the LBS! It is not at all a healthy attachment though. I think a large part of the "give the WAS time and space" approach is so that the WAS CAN detach, because once they're able to detach from us they can start to see that we're not the root cause of every little problem in their life.
