Hoper1's story..

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Oh !!

Thanks so much TVS and snodderly..needed that heave ho..

I had posted earlier to kinda alter my thoughts on this.. though my posts being moderated will take awhile to show up .

TVS- In my case too OW happened to be a common acquaintance living in another city..we met her on a trek , when we went for our first ever holiday alone post S. Yes it does hurt more if at all that was possible.

Snodderly i imagine you as this lady with a halo whose light reaches far and wide (and I live really far ) warming up even the saddest of souls.. God bless you:)

Journaling
My H initially started catching up with her for coffee and then dinners when he went to her city on work related visits. He used to earlier mention to me about these meetings..JuLy 11 to Dec 11.
Then he called her for my niece's wedding saying as she is in town for work, lets have her over too..
I found it a bit odd as we had called only our closest friends and we barely spent hours with this lady.. I let it go as he had already given me a Miss negative crown.. was walking around on eggshells..
I assumed it was the wedding as he was footing the expense and missing his brother terribly during this time.(daughter of his brother who passed away.)
so in May 12 he drops the bomb saying that he generally likes to talk to other women and meet them for lunches and kinda thrash his marriage while at it.He gives me some names, not including hers in the list..
Says whenever we have discussed this in the past i have told him this would be a deal breaker..(infidelity) confesses to an EA that happened 8 years back..i do the typical non DB stuff.. scream, threaten , beg cry, say i will leave..
he back tracks says no divorce..leave me alone..within 2 days of this he has a major slip disc..complete bed rest..

me waited on him hand and foot for 2 months in a way that i thought my back would give way.. Terrified and grateful for this opportunity .. wondering at God for giving him the kind of intense pain that he was going through.

The weekend before he resumes work OW flies down "for work"..i still had no idea.. as she has a four year old and he was not moving around for many hours he asks me whether we can call her home. I thought to myself thankfully she is not the one.. She comes over for dinner.. he makes me cook for her.. she checks out our digs .. he wants her to see his status as she is the lady with a fancy house and a fancy car..
post her visit he tells me now you know its not her , i say ya what kinda sicko will make me cook for her , make me feed her child ( she had a flight to catch and i was speeding things along)..HA!! i am so happy i didnt lose that opportunity to say that..
Anyway July 12 till now he has sent flowers, chocolates, taken trips to her city with his own flight points (hence taking an off at work never done this before), now to cover things further he tells me he is travelling to another city though i find a boarding pass to her city..(sorry non DB stuff but cant stop the snooping yet)
I have not confronted him yet.. they yet pretend not to be that friendly as they ask each other's whereabouts on social networking sites..

He will ask her where is the party, on her winning what i'm sure a fake paid for award for young talent in design .. I feel like writing the restuarant name where they last ate ..Jokers , why dont you have the party there as u enjoyed ur last secret meal there!!!

Any ways though it may not seem like , i have checked out and kept OW more or less out of my mind now..

Oh that was a long post ! will keep venting!

thank you for this support..