hyper-focused... that's me. It's time to take the focus of H and my rel'p. and put it onto me. I believe I can take the focus off h, but not sure how to put it onto me. I am not sure what focusing on me looks like. I have been GAL, and looking at what my requirements are (such as standing up for myself), allowing h to build the bridge to coming back, me not chasing/controlling it, etc. I am not sure what else I should be doing. I am not one to focus on myself...feels opposite of who I am (nurturing, mother, fixer).

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)