My wife is having an EA with a co-worker. I believe it started out as a simple friendship but then grew into a physical affair. I have talked to her twice about it, even going so far as to tell her I have absolute evidence about the affair. She still strongly dennies the affair. I am floored by the lengths she will go though to cover up her actions. This is a woman I have been married to for 30 years and never though in a million years that she would lie so blantly to me. My advice to you is belive nothing she tells you and be prepared for a long emotional ride that will not be easy. Once I found out about the affair I tried to change my relationship with her, telling I was sorry for the things I did in the past and the lack of emotional connection I showed her. We talked, I told her all my thoughts and fears, I opened up to her like I never have in the past, and she still continues her relationship with the other man as if nothing has changed. I'm at my wits end right now and not sure which way to turn. I do know that I have to make a change, I need to start thinking about me and my emotional wellbeing. I think, for me, that I need to detach myself from her and stop beating myself up about whats going on. I see now that no matter what I do she is not going to change and I need to accept that and get on with my life. Not sure what will happen from this point but I have get myself "well" before anything else can happen between us.
