You handled the conversation w/your h quite well. I agree w/you that you need to file for support now. Get your financial situation in order and do not let this go any longer.
As Bea pointed out, once they begin going down the mlc trail many of them do get meaner and do love to spend money because they feel entitled. Once you file and he becomes aware of it, don't be surprised if his personality takes a turn towards the angry side of things. Do not take it personally, as he will be angry that you are taking his fun money away and making him accountable.
As for him liking the ow...that's normal. They do not have that "in love" feeling of true genuine love w/the op during mlc. They are teenagers once again, so they really don't know what love is except that they are infatuated and the hormones are racing for a bit. They generally look at the other person as a pal/buddy or I have pointed out many times, a f@@k buddy, nothing more. They can't be alone for long periods of time and they need this buddy to help keep them distracted, thus the partying, etc.
I agree w/Bea, definitely read Frank Pittman's books. He's excellent and right on the money.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
