She says things don't feel right to her. You'll have to let her experience that and get through it. The longer she sees you hold on to the positive changes you have made, the more she will be comfortable with you. Then she might start to warm up to you again.
I agree with Pathfinder on this one, Grizz. Remember, she has mixed feelings about the situation, as well. And definitely focus on maintaining consistency. One of the things WASs say is that they see the changes, but can't be sure they are permanent. So don't backslide. Show her that you're in it for the long haul.
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Try to not focus as much on her and what she is doing. I know it is hard. I am not successful at it most days, but I AM getting better at it.
Make sure you are loving and accommodating to her needs. Try to not let her actions drive yours. If you change each time she changes, you become unpredictable. Set your course and stay with it. Be loving and predictable.
Exactly. Remember to detach and stay positive and upbeat, no matter what she is feeling or how she acts.
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But, make sure you are GAL, too!
This is key. Focus on yourself, because you're the only person whose behaviors you can control. Try not to take the odd bump in the road to heart.
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