Grizz, after I started sleeping in our guest br, I found I could sleep a lot better because I wasn't focused on where my wife was in the bed. I didn't feel like she was pinned as far away from me as she could get. I didn't lie there wondering what was going on inside her. When we were in the same bed, I sometimes could not sleep one wink because of my obsession about the situation.
I think sleeping separately actually helped me after a while. I could be by myself and it was peaceful in there. Your wife may be feeling something like that.
She says things don't feel right to her. You'll have to let her experience that and get through it. The longer she sees you hold on to the positive changes you have made, the more she will be comfortable with you. Then she might start to warm up to you again.
Try to not focus as much on her and what she is doing. I know it is hard. I am not successful at it most days, but I AM getting better at it.
Make sure you are loving and accommodating to her needs. Try to not let her actions drive yours. If you change each time she changes, you become unpredictable. Set your course and stay with it. Be loving and predictable.
