I think you handled the conversation really well. Remember we aren't perfect and we have feelings too. Two things - get your finances sroted. Some MLCers are OK, but as MLC tightens its grip, and it is a rocky ride at times, they often get meaner, and usually a lot more extravagent. Someone once characterized the MLCer as lazy, selfish and entitled.
The other thing is to google Frank Pittman, if you haven't come across him. He has written a host of pro marriage articles, and a family therapist. What our spouses are doing really isn't going to make anyone happy in the long run. Sad but true. They just think it is. I sometimes feel it would have been a better outcome if my xh was actually happy now - otherwise it seems an even bigger waster of time effort and money.
