There were also another couple of activities going on I didn't know about that I didn't find out about until Friday morning.
My W had texted a friend of mine from my church who had written her a letter late last year. She had asked for prayer and said she frequently reads her letter for encouragement. This text occurred about 5 hours before my W sent me the nastygram.
Another friend of mine had text-bombed my wife starting about 45 minutes after I got done with her. He felt compelled to do so. He has known my W for several years. He and his W had gone through a rough patch several years ago. He reported his observations that he knew we were going to have troubles. He also said I am not even close to the same man I was several years ago, that I have come a long way.