Point taken. Maybe she isn't ignoring it, but she does a pretty good job of faking that part. Much better than I'm able to pull off.
Introspection? What have I been doing for the past two years? Admittedly, I'm somewhat simple-minded about a lot of things, but I think I have looked pretty hard at myself and what bothered her.
I know I work a lot, I've been trying to take more time off. Unfortunately, I can't just quit everything, although I did consider that. The only thing that stops me is that I'm not convinced it would make any difference...and then where would I be? She'd be gone and I wouldn't even have this job...that I kind of like BTW.
I've offered to talk about what she wants to do, what she wants me to do...etc. but she won't talk about it. I've tried to be more available, and really tried to show her that I care in ways she understands. I get no conclusive feedback.
Yeah, if I dig, I can see how some things have changed. For one, she's back home. That's a big one, I know. But I still wonder if she came back because of the kids, for security, or just to bide her time...and it nags at me.
I've told her we have a lot of options. WE are in a position to do several different things to improve the R, but unless I start getting some clear signals that she really wants to do it, I'm probably better off doing what I'm doing...without her.
Like you, my trust of her went out the window when all this started. It's almost funny. I read your post on your thread about your H saying you guys have been together since May. W said about the same thing. She said she didn't leave. Meaning she didn't pack up and move back home like she claims she wanted.
Hello?? You moved out of the house, checked out of my life and the kids lives for two years and you think that you didn't leave? Even now she isolates herself in the house. Our definitions of "together" are obviously different.
But I digress. My point is that I've done a lot of introspection, come up with all kinds of things I did wrong, or at least, could have done better and I've been trying to work on that. I just don't know if my ideas are the right ones, or if they are enough to make a difference because she doesn't tell me. Usually, I have to rely on you guys to tell me when I'm screwing up.
