My wife told me that she felt that she had to live up to my expectations. That she needed to be a certain way to be loved and accepted by me. She didn't feel free to be herself. She spent all of her time trying to please me.
Her complaint about our marriage is that we have no trust in each other. I did a search on the internet. Search "My spouse does not trust me Smalley" and see what you get. When I read this to my wife, she said that's it. THAT is what I want.
Smalley speaks of the environment in which a spouse can trust their marriage partner. Read it. He says it better than I can.
