1) Stop pushing for my way all the time. Listen to what my wife wants. Stop being so controlling. Trust my wife to handle things instead of taking over.
2) Be more involved with our children. My wife has always been the one who was connected with our girls. I was very distant and quite a harsh disciplinarian. I now am much closer to them and guide them instead of rule over them. This has been a big improvement. I feel our home is much better with this simple change in me.
3) Honor my wife's fiscally conservative nature. I always spent money freely. I was not irresponsible, but I would not take her thoughts or feelings into consideration. I still slip up once in a while, but when I do, I apologize and correct the problem. My goal is to ALWAYS talk with her and come to an agreement when faced with an expenditure. That action shows her that I care about her thoughts and feelings.
My 180's have not changed because of my new approach. They are areas where I did not honor my wife. They were things that communicated to her that I didn't love her. They are things that needed to be changed in me.
There are other things that I am doing differently which could be considered 180's, but these are probably the most significant ones.
My marriage to my wife may still not survive, but these are changes I needed to make and will continue even if we don't make it.
