Absolutely. especially when OM is a person W met online. Even easier to be the perfect person!

I admit I did at first try to better OM - and I don't know anything about him! I soon realised it was a bad idea. It's fair to say though that there is always a temptation to be competitive and be something you think W wants.

I need to catch up on your story again, so sorry if this is already posted, But what did your 180 / goals consist of originally compared to now? Have they changed because of your new approach.

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.