For those of who got their marriage back: Did you ever find out WHAT your WAS was doing the entire time they kept you stringing along? Where was their head? What did they think?

I just want to understand where there head is at, and why they keep us on the shelf.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)