Is there something you can do that YOU like and that you are PASSIONATE about that have absolutely nothing to do with your husband or your business?

You have all this energy that you need to dissipate. Instead of investing it in your current marital situation, you could put it into something that YOU control.

I like control. I am a risk averse person by nature. I like to have things under my control. A lot of it is rooted in fear. Fear causes us to like to control things. I find that if I have something else I can control, I feel better about life in general. (I also am learning that I really don't have anything to fear, but that's a different matter.)

I exercise control over MYSELF by working out at the gym and eating healthily. That is an area where I can "control" things and no one is worse for the wear. It is actually a healthy habit.

What about you? Where can you expend your energy?