My coach sees the changes in the dynamics of our relationship as good signs. I haven't spoken to him about the part of me being myself, but I think you will find that MWD talks about that in DR. You can't try to be a person you are not. You don't try to become the person your spouse is flirting with or having an affair with. If you do try that, you are destined to fail. Your spouse will see right through it, see it as needy behavior and be repulsed by it.
GAL, be yourself, make your 180's. Show respect for yourself. Love your spouse, but let them go. You can't control them. You only are in charge of yourself. Be yourself, but make vast improvements. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.
One of the things my coach asks is what I am doing for GAL. He wanted to make sure that I was doing things that I was interested in doing and NOT what I thought my WIFE would be wanting me to do or what my WIFE would be interested in. This confirms my thoughts on "be myself".
