I think that my actions over the past 6 months have been viewed by her as very passive. Women in general are not attracted to men who are passive. If a man doesn't have the ba!!s to make a move or step out and take some risk, a woman won't find that flattering.
I know my wife is a very strong willed person. She will walk all over someone who won't be decisive and stand up on their own. She abhors a person who has no backbone. If she perceives me that way, we are finished and it will be my fault for not doing anything about it.
I have always been perceived by others as sure of myself, decisive, determined and goal oriented. That is who my wife married. My fault had been that I was very judgmental, and I would push for what I wanted until I got it, no matter what she said she wished for.
I have set my mind to going back to who I was before all of this marital mess. Here is where one of my 180's comes into play. The difference is, now I will be looking out for my wife first, then our daughters and myself. I don't have to become a pushover or a unuch to achieve that. What I need to do is listen to her heart and show her love instead of selfishness.
