When we go through this, it is like a death. The death of our marriage as we once knew it - denial or disbelief, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
And so, I understand your anger. I would be concerned if you werent angry.
But here's the thing. If you hold onto it, it saps your energy. It weighs you down.
And most importantly, it gives your xh all the power.
It is an important part of this process. The thing about it is this - when you are ready, you really need to let it go because it stops you from moving forward.
I get that you are hurting for your children. We are mama tigers. I know that this is so far from what you wanted for them.
And I so get the Brooklyn thing. We call it as we see it, LOL!
I always say, you feel what you feel. And I know you want him to see what you see. He can't, B. He just can't. And no amount of anger or anything else is going to make him see it.
I know that is hard for you to get your mind around. You just want to shake him til he gets it. But you'll just continue to go round and round with the same results.
Take back your power, B. Use it for you and your children.
