Ok I am posting a lot as something became clear to me. I felt empathy for H. In my thoughts, I could see him as my friend again and not my estranged H. I wasnt hurt and I could see clearly his repeated patterns of behaviour (I have known H for almost 25 years). And I felt empathy. This has helped me release the negativity I was feeling from yesterday and the stress of him being here.
Bug was spot on. Empathy is the cure for anger.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home