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Isn't it just common courtesy when you are leaving town for the night to at least let someone know when you left? Ugh!
Just venting here so I don't say it to her.


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uh ya... that's kinda rude.


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Originally Posted By: Grizz
Isn't it just common courtesy when you are leaving town for the night to at least let someone know when you left? Ugh!
Just venting here so I don't say it to her.


Have you ever asked her to keep you posted of her comings and goings? If you haven't, you should. Not because you want to keep a leash on her, but because you guys are running a household and raising kids together.

Make it all about respect for one another, and practicalities, not control. She can go out, but you deserve to be made aware, just like you would do with her. Set up some boundaries on this or she will continue to walk all over you. The sooner the better. The longer you let this go, the more backlash you'll get.


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I have been struggling recently with how to approach things like this with her. She definitely did things in the marriage that I would like to change but I figured if I brought those things up now that would just add fuel to the fire and pi$$ her off. Seems also like R talk which i am trying to avoid. It needs to be brought up but I am not sure if now is the right time. In general, we have been getting along much better over the past few weeks.


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Do some research on how to set boundaries. It's not R talks.

You do this in a calm, matter of fact matter. No raising your voice, no engaging in a fight.

She will only respect a man who stands up for himself.


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Thanks FY, I will read up on it.

Started a new thread. Her is the link.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...592#Post2336592


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