A BETTER FRAME OF MIND??????

[MAL]

JS,
Detachment? To be honest, I think the only reason I was able to detach was that H moved on without me. Had I still been trying to make it work, I don't think I could detach. That's hard to do. So don't kick yourself too hard. My H was all over the place emotionally, which meant I was too. Thank goodness I had patience.

You're in a very strange situation too when dealing with your W....emotions swinging back and forth like a pendulum. Just try to be in a different room when it swings back your way.

Good to see you post some goals. Put your focus on those. They will help keep you centered on life, and not on your W. It might keep your emotions stable too, and keep you from losing patience with her. When you feel the urge to "go off", come here and vent to us. We promise to be nice.

Remember that as you work on your goals that they are things YOU can control, and do not have to be about your W or your R. I see that you did that in this list you started. That's great!

And like folks said yesterday, once you start placing focus in other areas, and not on her, she might start to turn back towards you. The trick though...If she does, don't stop what you're doing. Keep living and enjoying life. As I recall, when she saw you doing other things last year, she started getting curious and jealous. You eventually had a real date with her, and got into MC. Do you think that your behavior maybe helped push her to those things?

The personal area of physical fitness has always been a big part of your life, and I know it's part of your job. Maybe getting back into that routine will help stabilize your PMA and your own emotions. As well, stabilizing those and putting some focus on YOU might help you with the detachment that you are seeking. And running gives you time with your thoughts and is a great stress reliever.

I didn't see "getting out and having fun" on your list. I do hope you are planning some fun stuff too. All work and no play makes Texas a dull place.

Colleges calling huh? Which sport? He's obviously multi-talented. You must be proud.

Good Luck with moving your D this weekend. I know that will make you feel relieved.

Have a great weekend!