Your situation sounds so similar to mine! My H is here, at the house he pays for, and only leaves when kids are asleep. How do I detach? Go dark, etc.? Is it a good thing that he can't detach yet either? Or is he just a cake-eater? What did u do?
Ezekiel37 Me 33 H 34 M 13 years S9 S11 Bomb 1/7/13 Moved out 3/7/13