I hate to be the one to break this to you guys but right now none of us are the better option in our S's eyes. If we were we wouldn't be on here.
Are we better than before? YES! Do we love our S's more then they understand or even care about? YES! Do we feel like and know in our souls that we're the best option? YES! Does any of that make a bit of difference? No.
Our S's see us much differently than we see ourselves, just as they see themselves differently than we do.
Can we find someone better than our S's that would appreciate us more? Maybe, maybe not... Remember we bring all the same baggage into a new R that we have in our M's until we make the changes in us and they've stuck. That takes time. Who knows what we'd get with the new R. At least with our S we know the pros and cons.
Only way for our S's to change their viewpoint in us is consistent change. They need to see our actions for the long term. Even if they don't change their minds about us we need to make the changes for us...right?
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
