Need Help Moving Forward!

[jaytee35]

Can anyone out there give me some clear advice on what I should do at this point. Let me give you a little information as to were we are at currently.

We have been seperated for slightly over one month. The first week of seperation was more of the same behavior from me. Argueing, blaming, accusing and questioning. Since then I have began to implement 180's and then the LRT. My WAW and I have not communicated at ALL for 3 weeks. I am beginning to think I should inititate contact within the next week or so. I was thinking about just saying Hi and letting her know that I trust she will make the right decision about the divorce. In other words "agreeing" to her decision. I planned on keeping it very short and sweet.

I keep reading that I should keeep the lines of communication open if I want any chance of reconciliation. However, I understand that the LRT requires her to contact me. I am just confused on how long I should go no contact for?

So I guess my question is should I initiate friendly conversation soon? Or do I just stay dark with no contact at all.

I am getting very anxious and I feel like my wife is slipping away.

I should add that we only communicate through email currently and we are 1 month into the divorce proceedings.

Love my wife and cannot stop thinking about her everyday.
I am GAL, getting counseling and working on me currently which I think is going along pretty well. My wife is very stubborn . what also worries me is that she has turned her family and friends against me so I feel that getting her to give me a second chance will show her as "weak" to her friends and family. Because she preaches about having strenght to walk away.

Sorry for long message

M 33
W 32
M 6 months
S 1 month

[makingmagic]

Im confused, you say NO contact for 3 weeks, then you say you communicate through email. Email is contact.

[jaytee35]

I am sorry, Before the 3 weeks of no contact was communication only through email...

[makingmagic]

ok.. I'm not a pro by any stretch, but based on my understanding of DB, its just best to let her come to you.

[makingmagic]

as copied from another thread:

Think like she is a squirrel.

If you chase her she will run away.

If you are very quiet and hold your hand out with food in it she might approach you, any sudden movement and she will be gone.

Let her control the contact, patience, GAL.

YOU can do this.

[jaytee35]

Thank you very much waitingformagic for the support! I really need it. I miss her so much...but I do understand the squirrel analogy! Maybe I just feel like she hates me so much she will never come!

It has only been 3 weeks since contact and about a month since our last argument! I am just scared cause divorce proceedings are already in process!
I praying that my lawyer calls me one day. Or my wife and says she is withdrawing from the divorce.

I wil be patient and keep waiting for the small signs and clues. I have only seen one very small clue so far. And that was through social media where she stated she misses our dog (who is with me) to a friend. Would you consider that a small clue she may be breaking? Or am I looking into it too much?

[makingmagic]

dunno... but I do know its mind-reading. AND, she needs space from you, and that is what she is doing.

Do me a fav? Post info about your sitch under your name/signature.

[jaytee35]

Ok , how do you do that? I am new to this and still trying to learn it !

[Cadet]

Go up to my stuff and lick on Edit Profile
Scroll to the bottom and put whatever you want.
Click Submit

Part of the problem with posting on so many threads is that people are not going to take the time to go back and read your story.

[jaytee35]

Cadet and Waitingformagic,

I followed your directions to edit my sitch in the signature section of the page. It continues to tell me my content is too much letters even though I clearly am well under 200......????

Any other words of wisdom how to make this happen so members can read my sitch quickly?

Thanks