Recently Separated and Need Help

[adinva]

I think it's normal. Your feelings will settle - it's all really new right now. Because your M has just taken a major turn and you don't know where it's going to wind up, you need to focus on improving YOU...that is something you won't feel wildly verging up and down about so it will be something healthy in your life that steadies you. When thoughts of H pull you onto the rollercoaster is when you need to put your blinders on and work on you. It really helps in the beginning, and there is no downside. That is why, I think, that many of Sandi's 37 rules stickied in this forum address you and your behavior.